In January of 2001, four days after attempting to end her life, a twenty-seven year old mother of two wrote the following. “When you start the New Year the way I have, there seems to be nowhere to go but up. Never would I have imagined finding myself at this juncture. I’m without answer to one question; at what point did I begin to lose touch with myself in such a way that I could consider death a suitable solution?” These are the words taken from the personal journal of Deeatra Kajfosz, Founder and Executive Director of LiFE OF HOPE. They were written from within the walls of St. Joseph’s Hospital Mental Health Ward. As a statistic, she was one of 46 Washington County suicide attempts who were hospitalized that year (Wisconsin Department of Health Services, Self-Inflicted Injury-Related Hospitalization, 2014). In 2012, eleven years after her attempt, ninety members of her local community were admitted as a result of a survived attempt to end their life. The sad truth is, statistics indicate that the numbers are not going down.
Suicide. The topic itself raises many emotions, opinions, and difficult questions. It has been said that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. For those affected by a suicide attempt or death, the financial and emotional hardships are substantial and can be felt deeply across generational, racial, and social demographics. Further, they are not alone in their state of psychological pain as family and friends struggle to understand the topic that so few understand or are willing to talk about.
After having lost a professional colleague / friend to suicide in June, 2014, Kajfosz set out to break the silence on her own attempt and develop a comprehensive, suicide awareness and prevention proposal in an effort to reduce the number of suicide attempts and deaths within Washington County. That proposal serves as the foundation to the LiFE OF HOPE mission.
LiFE OF HOPE MILESTONES
January 24, 2001
Deeatra K (LOH Founder/Executive Director) survived suicide attempt (2nd of her lifetime)
She holds survived attempt as a closely guarded secret
June 16, 2014
Kirk (Deeatra’s friend) passes away by suicide
Community proposal for change is written
Adam Fordham, in an effort to earn his Eagle Scout, asks the West Bend Drama Troupe to help him create a community awareness forum for suicide prevention with Deeatra offering to help assist in the planning and implementation
August 21, 2014
Deeatra shares her personal suicide attempt and journey toward healing story for the first time publicly during the “Roads We Take” – Suicide Awareness & Prevention event (150+ in attendance)
First organized meeting around Deeatra’s dining room
January 21, 2015
First community AWARENESS event to launch LiFE OF HOPE (introduction of original 4 LiFE-Saving Programs + 4 Awareness-Building Fundraisers)
January 31, 2015
Recognized as a 501(c)3 non-profit organization
February 10, 2015
First Board of Directors meeting is held
First Program & Partner Development meeting is hosted to begin defining program structure and partner relations
First Youth Impact Committee meeting is hosted to engage youth perspectives in an effort to build AWARENESS for the topic of suicide throughout Washington County
First AWARENESS-building fundraiser GiVE HOPE Mini Golf Outing is hosted
RiDE FOR HOPE AWARENESS-building fundraiser is held to attract 40+ year oldmen (highest rate of completed suicides by age demographic)
Two members of LOH team are the first to become QPR Certified
LiFE OF HOPE moves into a physical office (139 N. Main Street, Suite 104, WB)
Three members of LOH team become certified as QPR Instructors
Organization of expanded programs is restructured under “Three Pillars of Influence” (AWARENESS – primary) (EDUCATION – secondary) (SUPPORT – tertiary)
Two LiFE OF HOPE team members complete QPR Certification for Instructors
Celebrate LiFE Dinner & Auction adds to growing list of successful AWARENESS-building fundraisers
First QPR trainings held at West Bend Public Library and Wellspring Church in Hartford
Behind the Mask Brunch & Fashion Show held at West Bend Mutual Prairie Center. Raised $18,141
Welcomed International speaker and author, Kevin Hines, for a free community EDUCATION speaker event
Ribbon cutting ceremony in recognition as West Bend Area Chamber of Commerce members filmed and aired by West Bend Community Television
Hosted QPR Training of Trainers with 15 attendees adding 4 new instructors to the LOH volunteer team
LOH Founder received NAMI “Iris Award” in recognition of enthusiastic and vigorous efforts to spark action, promote programs, and fight stigma
Founder and Executive Director, Deeatra Kajfosz, is recognized by the Volunteer Center of Washington County with the Real Hero Award for making a “real difference” through positive change within the community
Sent two LOH representatives through Certified Peer Specialist Training
Three LOH representatives attended Zero Suicide Conference in Madison, WI
2nd Annual GiVE HOPE Mini-Golf Outing grows in size and financial contributions
Achieved 300+ people certified in QPR since the launch of EDUCATION Pillar
Hosted Free EDUCATION Workshop: Compassionately Supporting Someone in Emotional Distress with eight attendees
Launch of H.O.P.E. (Hold On. Pain Ends.) Peer Support Groups: Friends & Family and those personally experiencing active suicide ideation
H.O.P.E. peer support groups attract 20+attendees since program launch
2nd Annual Celebrate LiFE Dinner & Auction AWARENESS-building fundraiser welcomed over 200 guests with guest keynote speaker, Molly Fay from The Morning Blend. Raised $25,000
Board of Directors approved expansion of office space and addition of two new part-time staff members to meet the growing needs of the community
LiFE OF HOPE hosted first community Do Good Bus event with 30 volunteers and a morning filled with HOPE IN ACTION
QPR Certification program exceeds 700 participants
2nd Annual Behind the Mask Brunch & Fashion Show welcomes 240 guests, netting the largest profit of any fundraiser to date, for the continuation of AWARENESS, EDUCATION, and SUPPORT programs
Two new programs begin to take shape for launch in summer/fall (NEXT STEP Resources and AHA Community Connections)
Karlee’s Prom, created and hosted by a LiFE OF HOPE guest family, welcomes 200+ guests, gains attention from WTMJ Channel 4, and reduces stigma for mental illness and suicide
Dr. Thomas Joiner is welcomed as the Keynote Speaker of the LiFE OF HOPE – 2nd Annual – Community Suicide Education Forum where attendees learned why and how suicide ideation and action occur, and what can be done to reduce the risk of action so that healing can occur
Inhouse NEXT STEP Partner Resource rack is established, offering print collateral, articles, and tools to those seeking greater understanding and support through and beyond suicide ideation (themselves or for a loved one)
1 year anniversary of HOPE Peers Support Groups, having served more than 40 individuals through two different group settings (active ideation and friends/family of suicidal individuals)
3rd Annual RiDE for HOPE is held
Record attendance and profits are recorded for the 3rd Annual 5K Butterfly Run/Walk (200+ attend and $7,000 raised in profit)
Hometown Hero Award is presented to LiFE OF HOPE Founder and Executive Director, Deeatra Kajfosz, by Modern Woodman for her work in addressing the topic of suicide through a comprehensive attempt aversion and loss prevention nonprofit organization she founded in 2015
Three members of the LiFE OF HOPE team complete “Motivational Interviewing” training
West Bend Chamber of Commerce recognizes LiFE OF HOPE as the “Community Agency of the Year”, beating out long standing nonprofits such as United Way of Washington County, Volunteer Center of Washington County, Girl Scouts of SE Wisconsin, and others
Mr. Holland’s Heating & Air (and) Bryant Heating & Cooling Systems award LiFE OF HOPE Founder & Executive Director, Deeatra Kajfosz, with the “Community Heroes” award for her work in the improvement and positive impact made in the community
Sold out attendance at the 3rd Annual Celebrate LiFE Dinner and Auction leads to record breaking impact of over $30,000 profit and a compelling message from American Idol / The Voice contestant, Hannah Mrozak
LiFE OF HOPE celebrates three years in operation
AHA Community Connections program is launched, connecting individuals who self-identify as feeling alone, through healthy activities, because when a person no longer feels alone, their risk of suicide ideation is greatly reduced
LiFE OF HOPE adds a Stabilization Support Specialist to the team, dedicated to working directly with individuals most affected by suicide ideation, survived attempt, and loss
Members of the community take part in the first, official LiFE OF HOPE Open House, enjoying food, beverage, guided tours, signing the “In Honor/Memory Wall”, and networking among Board members, staff, partners, sponsors, and guests
Hartford Police Department completes QPR Certification, extending the class so that spouses of law enforcement officers could also take part in the class, sighting that “the community has a great resource in LiFE OF HOPE”
Deeatra K is recognized as the Kapco “Difference Maker” for her leadership in the prevention of suicide attempt and loss
Behind the Mask Dinner & Auction (3rd Annual) expands to new venue that accommodates more than 250 guests and breaks all prior financial impacts for LOH at a whopping $31,000 net
Josh Rivedal entertains, engages, and educates attendees during the 3rd Annual – Community Suicide Education Forum which also included a four-person discussion panel to empower guests in the prevention of suicide attempt and loss
Hartford Union High School joins forces with LOH for the “Day of Service”, with 15 students and 3 adults contributing toward a variety of projects aimed to make suicide a talkable topic
More than 330 gather to take part in the 4th Annual 5K Butterfly (chip timed) Run/Walk (250 participants and 80 volunteers), which featured new activities and building block awards, raising almost $7,000 in profit
DEALS 4 DONATIONS, a new AWARENESS, fundraising, and community partnership initiative, is held throughout the month of September in recognition of National Suicide Prevention Month, serving to make suicide a talkable topic and raising almost $3,000
All West Bend Fire Department (fire fighters and EMS professionals) complete QPR Certification
Harley Davidson (Menomonee Falls Plant) presents $6,000 raised by employees to support the LiFE OF HOPE mission
First Breakfast with the Board event is held, welcoming over 50 community leaders to The Norbert for an intimate look at the impact of suicide on the community, how LOH is filling gaps within the system, reviewing the 2019 fiscal budget, and gaining perspective on the subject of suicide as presented through a four-person panel discussion.
LiFE OF HOPE celebrates 4 years in operation, beginning a new chapter of growth in the community
Celebrate LiFE Dinner & Auction brings 250 community members together to enjoy dinner, speakers, fun games and activities and purchase silent and live auction items to raise $50,000 to support the LiFE OF HOPE mission.
The Newberg Fire Department complete the QPR (Question. Persuade. Refer.) certification.
The Boltonville Fire Department complete the QPR (Question. Persuade. Refer.) certification.
The 4th Annual Behind the Mask – Brunch & Fashion Show is held at The Chandelier Ballroom, with fashion models rocking local clothiers to a large crowd to raise over $20,000 for the LiFE OF HOPE mission.
Star Properties – Noel A. Dedrick joins our amazing group of Partners 4 LiFE as a Butterfly Supporter.
CW4 Clifford Bauman comes from Virginia to tell his compelling story of how suicide affected his LiFE after 9/11 during the Community Education Forum.
Youth Impact Club is approved to be a club in West Bend High School and students begin meeting at the LiFE OF HOPE Office to plan leadership activities centered around mental wellness in the schools.
LiFE OF HOPE puts on its first HOPE Notes Music Fest at Regner Park where ten performers sang original and cover songs and told their messages of HOPE to a great crowd before Riding Shotgun headlined the event!
HAWK Construction becomes one of our amazing Partners 4 LiFE as a Butterfly Supporter of our LiFE-saving mission!
The 5th Annual Butterfly 5K Run/Walk brings a record-breaking crowd to Regner Park to honor and remember loved ones, and race for awards during Suicide Prevention Week to raise over $6,000 to support LiFE OF HOPE programs.
DEALS 4 DONATIONS expands in its second year with many returning supporters and new supporters to help raise awareness and donate to LiFE OF HOPE during Suicide Prevention Month.
The 2nd Annual Breakfast with the Board event is held on September 19th, bringing together community leaders to learn more about the topic of suicide and connect with each other and our mission